As far as starting conversations with women,
here are a few ideas for you...
First of all, you must realize that your body
language is more important than the words you use.
Wherever you are, and whatever the situation, you
MUST remember that your composure and body
language are the keys.
I've watched a lot of guys approach a LOT of
women in my day. And I can usually tell within the
first few SECONDS if the guy knows what he's doing
with women... and if he's going to be successful.
Most guys use submissive, apologetic body
language and voice tones... they almost look as if
they're pleading with a woman to give them
approval and that they're nervous and self
conscious about the whole event.
In other words, most guys come across as
WUSSIES when they first approach women.
On the other hand, the guys I know who are the
most successful with women are the opposite.
They're totally cool, calm, and collected. They
often approach a woman and begin the conversation
like they would with an old friend.
There is no apologetic body language, and there
are no signs of insecurity.
They aren't there to find out if the woman is
going to give them some approval... on the
contrary, they are trying to find out if the woman
meets THEIR standards.
Think about how you'd act if you were only
interested in finding out if she's the kind of
exceptional woman that you're interested in
getting to know better, instead of being concerned
about whether or not she's going to like you...
big shift, isn't it?
Now, here's some homework for you:
Sit down and think carefully about the most
common situations you find yourself in where you
see women that you'd like to meet and talk to.
Think about what's going on in their minds,
where they're going, what they've just done... and
what they're about to do. Think about how they're
probably feeling.
Now, come up with 10 different ways that you
could start a conversation in this situation.
Remember that YOU'RE the one who is trying to
figure out if SHE is the kind of woman you'd like
to get to know better.
Once you've come up with 10 good ones, pick
your favorite, and mentally rehearse it.
I realize that I'm asking you to do some work
here, but it's sooooo worth it.
I'm going to give you one more hint...
Most of the guys I know who are great with
women use the simplest of simple conversation
starters.
"Hi."
"What are you drinking?"
"Hi, are you from around here?"
...I realize that these sound simple, and they
are. But they're so simple that they're DISARMING.
They don't come across as canned "pick up lines",
and they help you figure out very quickly if the
woman you're talking to is friendly.
And remember, relaxed body language is Key!